When I graduated high school in 1997, I had a quote hanging on my wall that said, “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.” Marriage was not of interest to me back then, even though in my faith marriage and family were highly valued.
It turns out, I was way ahead of the curve of Americans’ changing views on marriage. Marriage rates have plummeted, and as of 2024, Americans were less likely to be married than at any point since 1940.
And even though recent studies show married women with children are the happiest female demographic, we can’t seem to get young people to want to date or marry. In part, young women today are more educated than men their age and have greater focus on professional ambition and individual growth. Women are delaying marriage or avoiding dating and almost half of young women (age 18 to 34) say they don’t want kids, believing marriage and family benefits them less than men.
You may have heard all of this but what you likely haven’t heard is that the societal shift in U.S. marriage rates happens to match the plummeting marriage rates of Disney princesses.
Starting in 1937, the Classic Disney Princesses spread love and kindness and were always rescued by a prince: Snow White, Cinderella, and Sleeping Beauty all end up married to a prince, saved by true love’s kiss.
Then beginning in 1989, the Renaissance Princesses had additional goals like exploring a new world on land, away from their town, castle, or tower—even starting a restaurant, but all ended up happily in a royal marriage: Ariel, Belle, Jasmine, Tiana, and Rapunzel. Even Pocahontas and Mulan who have more complicated stories, both end up married in sequels.
Then we have the Modern Era of Princesses—which I would argue starts in 2012, where we see a significant shift as criticisms mount that traditional princesses are portrayed as helpless without a man. In response, more modern princesses began to appear without princes or marriage as part of their storylines. We have Merida in 2012’s Brave, the first Disney princess to completely reject marriage against her parent’s wishes and focus on self-discovery. Elsa, in Frozen, has no love interest, same with Moana, and Raya. The 2025 live action princess movie, Snow White, falls in love but doesn’t get married.
Disney is not the only company reflecting this cultural shift.
In 2023, Barbie rejects the doting man she has been paired with for over 60 years. These subtle shifts accompany more explicit messages like the 2024 book, This American Ex-Wife, claiming that marriage should be rejected as a “commonplace horror” and “violent prison.” For the last two years, one of Hulu’s top performing unscripted shows features infidelity in marriage and other risqué behavior of MomTok wives, arguably empowered from traditional patriarchy to take back their lives.
We’ve experienced a marked cultural shift rejecting marriage and family as a desirable life pursuit. Despite the trend against marriage both in princess movies and in our culture, who did America vote for as their favorite princess in 2023? Universally in almost every age group, it was Cinderella! Could it be that we still gravitate to a classic princess romance that ends in marriage? While teaching girls independence, education, and leadership is vital, idealizing a solo life is not ideal for individuals or society.
Yearly Gallup polls confirm that married adults are thriving 20 percent more than those never married and substantially more than domestic partners. Studies show that married adults are healthier, their children thrive, and communities prosper with lower crime where more married couples live.
As a professor, I’ve had three single Gen Z students this year tell me that their greatest fear is divorce. They didn’t realize that despite my disinterest in marriage, I got married young and ended up divorced and a single mom. You would think I would be warning them to wait to get married or have kids, but I’m grateful my failed “happily ever after” didn’t deter me from giving marriage another chance. I’ve been married nearly 10 years, and while I was told I couldn’t be taken seriously as a lawyer with more than two kids, I have five and I’m profoundly grateful. Marriage and family life are undeniably messy and imperfect—but they are also deeply meaningful. Just as Cinderella went from an abusive home to find her Prince Charming, we must offer today’s young people a vision of lasting love that is worth pursuing. It’s time to rewrite the cultural narrative to reflect the enduring benefits of marriage and parenthood—both of which lead to greater fulfillment than the solitary path subtly normalized for our youth.
Shima Baughman is the Woodruff J. Deem professor of law and a distinguished fellow at the Wheatley Institute for Religion, Family and Constitutional Studies.
The views expressed in this article are the writer’s own.
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