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When I walked into work last year on my birthday, there was an envelope with my name written in cursive on my desk. I was less than three months into a new job and hadn’t announced my birthday. Being an introvert, a slight discomfort rose as I opened the envelope.
The discomfort dissipated as I read the personalized messages written by my colleagues. I was grateful for the simple gesture; this was the first time I received a birthday card at work. A few months later, I returned from my honeymoon to find another thoughtful card and a wedding-decorated desk.
My colleagues’ acknowledgment of these milestones is proof that after a midlife pivot, I’ve landed somewhere good. The all-female leadership and team where I work prioritize the organization’s mission by fostering a kind, encouraging atmosphere for clients and employees.
While I see the perks, I’ve also experienced some downsides to an all-female workplace.
I started my career in offices with boundaries
I entered the workforce during an era when professionalism stressed a clear delineation between work and personal lives. In the offices of the media companies where I worked as a photojournalist and reporter, employees refrained from divulging details of their outside lives. I welcomed these boundaries.
By the mid-2010s, successive rounds of layoffs in my industry resulted in a less diverse workplace. Management became mostly men who I remember using sports analogies, mansplaining, and all-caps emails — controlling tactics that diminished my sense of worth.
A decade later, bias issues forced the last media company I worked for to adopt policies stressing safe, inclusive workplaces. The personal became political, and the movement to normalize almost everything took hold. Before long, a workplace culture emerged where revealing intimate personal information was commonplace.
Yet there still wasn’t a shift away from the male-dominated culture. Many of my female colleagues who survived layoffs exited the industry. Before long, I was planning my own exit strategy.
It was difficult to separate myself from a profession I once loved
For a few years, I worked on reinventing myself by expanding my skill set through classes and freelance work. I was eventually offered an environmental communications position. While the job didn’t last, it launched me into the nonprofit sector.
I live in a region with many nonprofits. The local nonprofits I’m most familiar with are primarily led and staffed by smart women passionate about helping others. This isn’t surprising, as studies concerning the differences in personality traits have found that women are more nurturing, tender-minded, and altruistic more often and to a greater extent than men — traits necessary to do lower-paid, sometimes emotionally taxing work.
When I started nonprofit work, I felt acknowledged and supported
I started my current communications manager position in early 2024. Since transitioning to nonprofit work, I’ve experienced how an all-female team can promote a kinder, more collaborative workplace. Have an idea for something not in your job title? Share it. Need help with a project? There are always offers to assist, even for projects requiring time outside normal schedules.
There’s also the celebration of achievements. Our leader frequently shares our team and individual accomplishments publicly. She gifted us with bright yellow smiley face bells to ring when we complete a difficult project. After years without recognition of my professional achievements, it feels good to have my contributions acknowledged.
The professional respect ingrained in our office culture extends beyond job tasks. If we come in late or leave early for an appointment or emergency, we can do so without advance approval. Leadership even encourages us to take personal days when we’re feeling stressed.
This kind, empathic leadership style trickles down. Recently one of my coworkers was out for a few days with the flu. Knowing she lives alone, we reached out with “get well soon” texts and offered to pick up her prescription and deliver it to her home.
There are also challenges
While working in an all-female office has been a positive change, certain aspects can be trying. There’s inherent pressure to participate in optional group activities such as weekly team lunches and afternoon walks, which can be stressful for someone who cherishes alone time like me.
Recently, a mandatory retreat escalated into a cold plunge. Voiced statements about not liking cold water were countered with emails about “team building.” Days before, a colleague said that she couldn’t partake due to a medical issue.
In the end, a few of us watched the cold plunge through the window of a warm house. I was already nervous about an overnight cabin retreat. I wasn’t fond of the planned kayaking and swimming, but I also didn’t want to hurt the feelings of my colleagues planning it.
The blurring of lines between work and play can also result in unexpected workplace tension. When a new colleague joined our team recently, she misinterpreted the relaxed atmosphere as “any topic goes.” While I appreciate an informal office, some of the topics she discussed made me uncomfortable. I eventually spoke up about my new colleague’s crudeness, and the issue was addressed.
I question whether the easing of professional manners has veered too far off-track
I wonder if a single-sex environment contributes to this. I wonder if my colleague would’ve acted differently around male colleagues and if a male would’ve been terminated for similar behavior around female coworkers.
I’m not looking to leave my job. If I ever return to a workplace with both men and women, I’ll bring what I’m learning about collaboration, kindness, and celebrating achievements with me.
Kate Collins is a writer and nonprofit communications professional. She lives in Ithaca, New York, with her husband, stepson, and two foster dogs.
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