You always think you know exactly what to wear to a rehearsal dinner as a guest—but once the invite arrives, why does it suddenly feel like an overwhelming process?
Traditionally, the rehearsal dinner is when the betrothed couple’s closest friends and family gather for pre-ceremony festivities the night before the wedding. Unlike the wedding ceremony and reception, which often carry a dress code—black-tie, cocktail, formal, etc.—the rehearsal dinner is less regimented. Sometimes, it’s not even a dinner! You know it’s a slightly less formal event than the big day, but still: The guidelines on how to dress are often blurry at best.
Plus, there’s an unspoken stressor here too. “You’re meeting all the guests for the first time,” says bridal stylist and creative brand consultant Anny Choi. In other words, you want to look and feel your best without being so disruptive that it pulls focus from the happy couple. However, Choi says, it’s also a chance for wedding guests to show a little personality. “I actually think that it’s a good opportunity to make a statement, especially if the wedding itself calls for a more restrictive dress code.”
The good news? These pre-wedding events usually aren’t as highly photographed as the actual wedding itself, so that should take some of the pressure off. And if you’re invited to the rehearsal dinner, odds are high that you’re in the wedding party and have an assigned ensemble (read: pastel bridesmaids dress) for the big day—this could be your best chance to have fun with your look.
“Often, you’re seeing your old high school or college friends, or people you might not see all the time,” Choi says. “So why not use that as an excuse to dress up?”
OK, so you’re ready to have fun with your look. Now what? From there, you consider the season, venue, locale, and even the vibe of the bride(s) and/or groom(s). But in general, embrace the grey area. Below, Choi shares more of her tips for selecting a rehearsal dinner outfit.
What should I keep in mind when planning a rehearsal dinner outfit as a guest?
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If you’re not sure what to wear to a rehearsal dinner, here are some things to be cognizant of:
- Dress Codes, if any
- Venue
- Terrain
- Season
- Location
- Tastes of the Couple
What if there’s a wedding theme?
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If there is a dress code or suggested theme for any pre-wedding events, it is good etiquette to follow the request of the couple.
“A lot of couples are throwing very specific themed pre-wedding events,” says Choi. “Maybe it’s an all-white party. I’m working with a couple where they are encouraging guests to wear shades of sunset to their welcome event.”
Choi encourages everyone to see this as an opportunity to be creative. And sometimes, creativity thrives within parameters.
How different should a rehearsal dinner outfit be from the wedding day look?
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In general, pre-wedding events are less dressy than the wedding, unless noted otherwise in the invitation. So, yes, you can leave the tuxedo in the hotel room…but that doesn’t mean you should show up in a T-shirt and shorts or other overly casual attire. Rehearsal dinner dress code is still more formal than your average Tuesday.
“You’re attending two very different events,” Choi says. “I advise doing something different from what you might be wearing to the ceremony so that you get the variation.” Some examples? Go with a shorter hemline for the pre-wedding event by wearing a mini cocktail dress, or extend the silhouette with a long sleeve. If your reception dress is more formal or muted in color, a relaxed sundress or a bright pop of color the night before might be appropriate.
When in Doubt, Go for ‘90s Silhouettes
“I’m seeing a lot of simple nineties, minimal silhouettes—especially in bold colors—going into this wedding season,” says Choi. “It immediately makes me think of Gwyneth Paltrow’s pink Ralph Lauren Oscar dress. I think a shape like that feels so timeless and effortless, but it’s comfortable. You feel and look good in it.”
So when in doubt, a simple sleeveless slip dress with a column silhouette will never fail when it comes to cocktail attire—especially in a bright hue or classic neutral. Add a blazer or button-up shirt for colder months (or chilly air conditioning).
Supesu Satin Midi Slip Dress
Amazon
Big Dart Oversized Button-Down
Amazon
Treat the Location Like a Theme
Read into what you can based on the welcome event’s location or venue. “A floral dress for rehearsal events lends really well to a garden party,” says Choi. “And there’s so much you can play around with for an urban city setting or even a beachy seaside event.”
Scope out the venue online and imagine what would photograph best in that setting. A cocktail dress in a bright red hue works for drinks on a rooftop bar, for example, while a relaxed, gauzy maxi dress would be more appropriate at a destination wedding.
Curaae Spring Dress
Free People
J.Crew Drop-Waist Mixy Dress
J. Crew
Fresh Accessories Can Create a Whole New Look
Avoid the “one-and-done” dress, Choi cautions. Don’t waste money splurging on something for a wedding rehearsal dinner that’ll only end up at the back of your closet, never to be seen again. Especially if you’re attending more than one event this season. “If it’s something you can wear again, different accessories make it work for different occasions,” Choi says. “You can bring your own twist to it each time.”
Some outfit ideas: A statement necklace or earrings, whether it’s silver art deco or a bright piece of coral, adds pizzazz to a simple silhouette. Straw accessories can tone down a dressier look at a summer wedding. Even just swapping your usual flats or loafers for metallic heels can elevate your favorite work dress.
Madewell Camren Mini Bag
Madewell
Anthropologie Bubble Letter Monogram Necklace
Anthropologie
Consider Sharp Separates You Can Wear Again
“Looking back, I’ve personally opted for a lot of separates when it comes to rehearsal or welcome events instead of a dress,” Chois says. “I don’t love a one-hit-wonder dress that I buy for one specific occasion—but I have photos in it, so I don’t want to wear it. I’m leaning more towards separates that I can style in different ways for different occasions, whether it’s a rehearsal dinner or a personal event that I’m going to.”
When styled right, a skirt set or dress pants and a button-down can be just as elegant as a flowy dress—but they’re totally different vibes. (A jumpsuit works too!) Choi purchased a made-to-order green and white floral crop top and skirt set from One/Of, for example. Last summer, she wore the skirt with a solid top to a rehearsal dinner. Recently, she wore the same skirt dressed down with a knit top for a night out with friends.
Pretty Garden Two-Piece Maxi Skirt Set
Amazon
Reformation Taryn Two Piece Set
Reformation
Plan Around Your Shoes
“Always make sure that you have appropriate shoes on,” Choi says. Nothing’s more miserable than foot pain before the dancing’s even begun. “If you’re going to be on grass, sand, or cobblestones at any point, you probably want to stay away from skinny stilettos and opt for block heels or wedges instead.”
So, consider starting with your shoe first and going from there with your rehearsal dinner attire. Luckily, wedges and espadrilles are currently in style and block-heeled sandals pair well with spring and summer silhouettes.
Pikolinos Vila Espadrille Wedges
Nordstrom
Reformation Serenity Block Heeled Sandal
Reformation
Always Keep a Print Under 50% White
Some etiquette experts will tell you not to wear white at all during any of the wedding events, but Choi says there is room to play. “I personally think a bit of white is okay,” says Choi. “If we’re getting picky, a 50/50 print is okay.”
What does that mean? Don’t wear a white dress, obviously, but a floral print with a white base is likely fine in a guest outfit as long as color takes up roughly 50% or more of the fabric’s surface area. Choi also recommends steering clear of a light or eggshell yellow—even the butter yellow that’s trending right now—as they tend to read white, especially in spaces with bright natural light. “If you’re questioning it, then I would ask the bride.”
Anthropologie Drop-Waist Midi Dress
Anthropologie
Reformation Laine Dress
Reformation
Pack a Floral Midi Dress as Back Up
Classics, even if they’re a bit cliched, are classic for a reason. “Especially leading up to spring weddings, a lot of people tend to just opt for a bright, floral dress for welcome events,” Choi says of this foolproof solution for wedding guest dresses.
It’s so reliable, in fact, it’s not a bad idea to pack in the suitcase just in case you have a spill, change your mind at the last minute, or simply want options. Almost anything with a botanical or floral print will likely work for a rehearsal dinner, especially if it has a draped neckline, ruffles, or other playful details. A midi silhouette is best to show off that new pair of strappy sandals.
Azazie Atelier Kia Floral Pleated Midi-Dress
Azazie
Grace Karin Floral Boho Dress
Amazon
Shop Your Own Closet
A more casual rehearsal dinner is “a good opportunity to rewear something that you might’ve worn to another event or another wedding in the past,” says Choi. Wedding season means these evenings are in abundance—it’s silly to purchase something new for every event of every wedding weekend is nearly impossible. So don’t feel guilt about pulling something from your own closet, even if you’re in the bridal party. Take that dress from the bridal shower or that family member’s graduation you attended last month and make it feel fresh with new accessories. Even simply changing up your hair and makeup can make a difference.
Pavoi Freshwater Cultured Pearl Earrings
Amazon
Sam Edelman Carla Lace Up Kitten Heel
Amazon
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