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A Redditor revealed she’s pregnant with her first child and a gender reveal party was ruined by her “toxic mom.”
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When planning the baby shower, her mom then refused to attend if her dad would also be going. The pair divorced 5 years ago.
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The pregnant woman is now dealing with her mom’s anger as she went ahead with the baby shower without her.
A pregnant woman is struggling with her “toxic” mom’s wrath after going ahead with having a baby shower without her there.
In a post on Reddit’s “Am I The A——-?” forum, the pregnant woman explained that she had a gender reveal before her baby shower, which was ruined by her mom making a “huge fuss” over her dad and his new wife. Her mom and dad have been separated for nine years and divorced for five, yet her mother “ended up yelling, swearing and storming out.”
The pregnant woman said that following the blow-up, her mom began demanding that a separate baby shower would be held without her dad and his wife present.
“I said my dad’s wife offered to step away so my mother could feel more comfortable, but she flat out refused to go to the shower simply because my dad would be there,” the woman, who is expecting her first child, wrote.
Speaking of her mom, she continued, “She is now saying I hid the event from her and her side of the family (it’s just her, my 3 siblings, my SIL [sister-in-law], and a niece and nephew) when I’ve told her several times I’d love for my mother to be there but she kept insisting she couldn’t because of my dad being there.
“My older sister, SIL, and 7-month-old niece were at the shower. I didn’t hide it from any of them,” she added. “My mother just refused to talk about it with me.”
The pregnant woman said her mom is making her “feel like the worst daughter in the world.”
“So…AITA [am I the a——] for ‘excluding’ her from the baby shower?” she asked.
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The post racked up a flood of responses from people reassuring the pregnant woman that she didn’t do anything wrong.
“The baby shower isn’t about her, it’s about your child,” one person commented. “You decide who comes and who doesn’t, and if she can’t handle being in the same room as her ex and his new partner, then that’s on her. She is clearly a manipulator and it sounds like you might want to start limiting contact with her, for your own peace of mind.”
Another person wrote, “NTA [not the a–] Invite her to events one time. Give, date, place and time, then hang up or end the discussion. She comes and behaves cool.
“She acts like an a– thrown out,” they added.“ She tries to harass you later, hang up or physically turn and walk away. Rinse and repeat as needed. She’ll either learn or leave. She does it cause she gets the reaction she wants. Stop feeding her.”
A third chimed in, saying, “NTA but for your own peace OP [original poster], consider going no contact with mom. Your health is more important, you’re currently building a human.
“You said yourself mom is toxic, if you need permission to let go of all the toxicity the AITA community hereby grants it to you,” the commenter continued. “Congratulations and safe arrival for your newest family member.”
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The pregnant woman replied to the comments by revealing that her therapist had offered similar advice.
“It’s been so hard, my therapist agrees on going NC [no contact] with her but she always manages to guilt her way back in,” she wrote. “Thank you so much on replying and the good vibes! I will try going NC again!”
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