Recently Reddit user Ill-Hall-2953 shared a confronting run-in she had with her mother-in-law.
She said, “I recently had a baby and have been breastfeeding her regularly. My MIL came over on short notice while I was doing chores around the house. She picked some things from our garden and chatted with me and my husband. She sat down and started watching the news on the TV. I ended up watching TV a bit later too, and I was tired. My baby started getting fussy. I pulled down my top to start nursing her. My MIL swung her head to me and gave me a look. She huffed and said, ‘Really? Around me? I’ll just get naked too and have it all hanging out, huh?’ and rolled her eyes at me.”
“This isn’t the first time she’s done something like this. And the last time she made a comment while she was here for the day I just took my baby into another room. Then my husband bought me a cover, but my baby doesn’t like it when I use it. This time I just had enough. I didn’t have it ‘all hanging out,’ and I was doing it pretty discreetly, not facing her. I was tired and wasn’t really thinking. I just pulled off my top and stood up right in front of her and told her, ‘I’ll feed my baby when I want in my house.'”
“She just stared at me and I added, ‘If you don’t like it you can leave.’ I sat back down, and she said, ‘I can’t believe this girl,’ and got up and left. My husband was there and afterward said I didn’t have to go that far. He said my MIL texted him angrily. But I was just tired in the moment, and all I was thinking about was just feeding my baby. AITA here?”
In a rare moment of Reddit unity, commenters were nearly universal in supporting OP…
“NTA. You shouldn’t have to be apologizing for feeding your baby in your house. In fact, you can do that anywhere, except maybe your MIL’s house…breastfeeding is the most natural thing in the world and is hardly the same as getting naked, for goodness sake. Your MIL is acting like a child. She chose to enter your home, you can do what you want and your husband should be supporting you.”
“NTA. She needs to fuck off. She can watch the news in her own home. And if your husband doesn’t get a fucking spine, I’d send him packing to his mommy too.”
“Look at you and your shiny back bone. I’m so proud of you! Now you just need to sit down and have a discussion with your husband and tell him MIL can’t come over if she is going to make snide rude comments about you breastfeeding. It’s your home. You feed the baby where you want, when you want, how you feel comfortable. Your husband is failing you. This is his issue to fix, and he does that by chastising his mother and removing her from the home. Until she can act appropriately, she doesn’t get to come over. OR you could take the second approach. Use the breastfeeding cover…to cover up MIL. Works just as well. I’d suggest throwing it on her when she’s trying to eat, and when she pulls it off, put it back on and say, ‘We must be modest when we eat. This stays on. How dare you act like this in front of us. It’s nasty.'”
“NTA. You were 100% correct. The shirt off gave her a little ammo to distort the story, but that’s still your prerogative. At this point it’s on your husband. He needs to step in and tell his mom that she is out of line, and she should be SUPPORTING this care of her grandchild, not shaming. Come on husband, don’t wimp out. Do your job.”
“Well, to start, what kind of husband sits there and lets his mother speak to his wife like that? She’s out of line, but your husband sounds like a worthless bum for him to let all that happen and then get mad at you for how you reacted. You have a MIL problem, but you also have a husband problem. NTA.”
“I was a little timid of feeding my baby in front of other people, and my husband would just say, ‘fuck ’em’. I felt better and doubly so when I realized (quickly) that you can’t even see much (not more than a low-cut shirt) when a baby is nursing. I did it in public without a cover (discreetly still), but in my house, it’s all crop tops and whatever, whenever, no matter who is over. ‘Don’t look if you can’t handle it’ — not that anyone ever had an issue because IT’S PERFECTLY NORMAL.”
“When I breastfed in front of my dad, do you want to know what he did? Looked away. He didn’t want to see my boobs, and so he didn’t. He didn’t stop me from feeding my baby. My mom? She watched.”
“She couldn’t breastfeed any of her kids, so she was super interested to watch how my baby latched and she had a lot of questions. And yes, she even saw me accidentally squirt the poor baby in the face when they randomly unlatched. They were just happy and grateful to spend time with their grandbaby. And they didn’t criticize me; they actually did really well at respecting how I was parenting my kid.”
“I think anyone who complains about any woman breastfeeding her child in any location can fuck right off.”
“NTA! This is fucking epic! You are incredible. A god among women.”
“You know what? It might be a YTA situation, but I fucking DO NOT CARE!! I love it!! Your body, your baby, your bloody house. You go, Momma.”
So what do you think? Was OP justified in her actions? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
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