A man shared a bitter relationship conflict tied to a morning coffee routine — with over 13,000 people on social media reacting to it and more than 2,000 sharing their very direct comments and thoughts.
Was he wrong, a man wondered in a social media post a few days ago, for “telling my girlfriend I wouldn’t make her coffee anymore unless she stops micromanaging me?”
He said he was 24 and that his girlfriend was 23. They’d been together for about two years, he said, “living together for roughly six months.”
Normally, “we have a good routine: I wake up first, make coffee, and she wakes up to a nice hot cup,” he wrote.
But recently, the woman “started getting really particular about how she wants it done,” the man wrote about his girlfriend.
She began insisting on a “super-specific method: Measure the grounds to the exact gram, pre-warm the mug in the microwave for 30 seconds, add the milk at a certain temperature — and on and on.”
He said that “at first,” he tried to accommodate her requests — “because hey, if she loves coffee that much, I want to make it nice for her,” he wrote.
“But it got to a point where every time I handed her a cup, she’d grill me: ‘Did you weigh the grounds first?’ ‘Did you warm the mug?’ ‘Is this whole milk or 2%?’”
“‘Did you weigh the grounds first?’ ‘Did you warm the mug?’ ‘Is this whole milk or 2%?’”
He added that “if anything was off, even by a tiny bit, she’d sigh and say it wasn’t as good as ‘the right way.’”
The man said that “one morning, she literally took the mug from me, dumped [the coffee] down the sink and started the process herself — while ranting that I never do it the right way,” he wrote.
The man said he became frustrated by the constant conflicts.
“I told her, ‘If you’re going to be this picky, just make your own coffee. I’m done making something only to be told how it’s wrong every time,’” he wrote.
The man reported that his girlfriend became “upset” at his words and said he was “overreacting.”
“I’m tired of feeling like I’m a barista under constant scrutiny.”
She said she “just wants her coffee a certain way,” he wrote, “and that I should respect her preferences. I argued that I was respecting her preference — I just didn’t appreciate the constant criticism or micromanaging.”
But the woman then accused him of “being lazy and unaccommodating,” he said.
On Reddit, the young man wrote to others, “Now I’m feeling guilty because I do want her to enjoy her morning coffee, but I’m also tired of feeling like I’m a barista under constant scrutiny.”
He asked others on the platform if he was wrong for “telling her she can just handle it herself until she stops micromanaging me — or should I just suck it up and follow her super-detailed instructions?”
The same individual added, “If there were no other examples of her being this rude, then I guess the outcome would be that I would just never, ever make her a drink (or anything else, probably), at least until she sincerely apologized … If nothing else, she needs to learn some bloody manners.”
Another responder made this pronouncement about the woman’s behavior: “Not only is it disrespectful, it’s wasteful.”
Fox News Digital reached out to a psychologist for comment.
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