Grandma is fired up.
Whether or not you live near them, having a close relationship with grandchildren is one of life’s greatest joys.
However, a debate as old as time is who is responsible for keeping this relationship intact. Some believe it’s on the parents, others feel that at a certain age, grandchildren should, while others think it’s the oldest generation who should be doing the work.
Well, one grandmother didn’t hold back in a recent TikTok video about the matter, causing quite the stir online.
“I think it’s the grandparents’ responsibility to always reach out, to be the one saying, ‘Can we help out with this?’ Can we come and visit? Can we take them there? Is there anything you’d like me to do? Do you need some support this week? Do you need some support next week?’” the UK-based devoted granny, named Helen, said to the camera in her video that has racked up over 2 million views. “I’m a devoted granny and I feel very strongly about this.”
“Your children shouldn’t be the ones to sort of facilitate that relationship; it’s up to the grandparents to do that,” she continued. “It’s your time to help your kids because it’s really difficult when your children are small and the help that you give them is so needed and it’s so appreciated.”
The Post has reached out to Helen for comment.
Thousands of commenters, both grandparents and parents, had a lot to say in response to Helen’s hot take.
Plenty agreed.
“My MIL lives 5 minutes away and has never met my 5-month-old. If they wanted to, they would!!”
“I totally agree grandparents responsibility to reach out, the bond is being built at a very young age.”
‘I really wish everyone thought this way. it’s heartbreaking when grandparents don’t make that effort.”
While others thought it was a good idea in theory, but not a realistic one.
“Lucky though If you can afford to do that !! Not all grandparents are retired with a healthy retirement fund! The longer the grandparents are needing to work — less time available for the grand.”
“Two way street… as every relationship is.”
“I think it’s every one. Parents and grandparents.”
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