When Lauren Jane Futterman and Tyler Anthony Oliver Olson matched on Bumble in October 2018, neither was looking for anything serious. For Mr. Olson, it was his first time connecting with someone from a dating app. It would also turn out to be his last.
They met in person that same month at Father’s Office, a gastro pub in Santa Monica, Calif., over French fries and cocktails. Both were approaching the date casually and intended to keep the conversation light. As the evening unfolded, they realized they shared many values — particularly around work and what they wanted in a long-term partnership.
“When I met her, she told me she had an engineering degree and was working on SoFi Stadium,” Mr. Olson said. “I instantly respected her as someone who had an impressive career and could stand on her own.”
They left the bar holding hands, and by the end of the weekend, had spent three consecutive days together; it was a long first date. “Our connection happened very naturally,” Ms. Futterman said. “It broke all of the rules.”
Ms. Futterman, 30, grew up in Roslyn, N.Y., and is a senior project manager at Jamison Properties, a real estate development firm based in Los Angeles. She has a bachelor’s degree in civil engineering from the University of Southern California.
Mr. Olson, 32, is from North Vancouver, British Columbia, and is an investment manager at Karlin Asset Management, a private investment firm based in Los Angeles. He has a bachelor’s degree in economics from Harvard.
She was living in the Brentwood area of Los Angeles at the time, and he was in Santa Monica. “We were together every day,” Ms. Futterman said. At the time, she was a project engineer at AECOM Hunt, working at SoFi Stadium in Inglewood, Calif. She had earlier construction hours, so she would pick him up from his office for smoothies and drop him back before the end of his workday.
In the evenings, Mr. Olson would take a scooter to her apartment and leave for work in the morning. “We wanted to be together as much as we could,” he said.
While they were dating, she learned he spent his weekends volunteering as a Little League coach at the Santa Monica Pony Baseball league. He would show up to practices and help with pitching and drills.
“I thought that was so impressive,” Ms. Futterman said. “He doesn’t have a kid, but he’s the type of guy who coaches Little League and wants to help kids with their pitching. That’s the kind of guy I want to be with.” (“Sports have given me so much in my life, and I wanted to give back and pay it forward,” Mr. Olson said.)
On Dec. 14, 2018, during their first vacation together in Santa Barbara, Calif., they became exclusive, and in the summer of 2019, she moved into his apartment in Santa Monica, where they still reside.
In September 2019, Mr. Olson traveled to New York for a work conference in Midtown Manhattan. Ms. Futterman’s grandmother, Barbara Adin, was living in Murray Hill at the time, recovering from cancer. With an hour between meetings, Mr. Olson took an Uber across the city and spent more than an hour with her — without asking or telling Ms. Futterman.
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Ms. Futterman learned about the visit later that day, when her grandmother called her to tell her.
“I thought, what a mensch. Who does that?” she said. “He could have done anything with his time, and instead went to the opposite side of the city to spend time getting to know my grandma.”
“Lauren wanted to spend more time with her grandmother, but she was rarely in New York anymore,” Mr. Olson said. “I felt like this was a way to show her grandmother that she cared. I knew how much it would mean to both of them.”
“It reinforced how serious our relationship was,” she said.
On May 8, 2025, Mr. Olson proposed on a gondola ride in Venice. Afterward, they rushed through Venice to catch a train to Rome.
Shortly after arriving in Rome, white smoke rose over the Vatican, signaling the selection of a new pope, and they ran through the streets to see it. Later that evening, the couple celebrated their engagement at Taverna Trilussa, a Roman restaurant. Ten minutes after they were seated, Carlos Alcaraz, the world’s No. 1-ranked tennis player and a favorite of both of theirs, walked in and sat down directly behind Mr. Olson for the entire meal.
“It just felt like a very good omen,” he said.
On March 14, Ms. Futterman and Mr. Olson were to be married at Susurros del Corazón, an Auberge resort in Punta Mita, Mexico — a short drive from where his retired parents live, just outside Puerto Vallarta. They had signed their contract and spent nine months working through every detail — a barefoot ceremony on the sand, a mariachi band, custom paper goods, seashells, and palm tree designs woven throughout.
But 17 days before the ceremony, cartel violence broke out near the Puerto Vallarta airport — the same airport their guests were set to fly into, with news circulating showing buses and cars on fire.
“We were in total limbo for four or five days,” Mr. Olson said. “We didn’t know what to do.”
By day five, they sent an anonymous poll to their guests asking whether they still felt comfortable traveling there, and more than half said they did not.
On Sunday, March 1, their wedding planner, Sara Greenberg of Forever Young Events in New York City, caught a 7 a.m. flight to Los Angeles to tour venues with them, and flew back to New York later that evening.
With their wedding only 10 days away, the original venue, Susurros del Corazon, refunded them in full, and on March 2, they signed a contract for their new venue, the Rosewood Miramar Beach in Montecito, Calif., a beachfront property both had visited before. “Once we had clarity that we had another venue, it went from sadness to action,” Mr. Olson said.
They realized that this new venue would allow them to carry over nearly everything they had spent nine months designing. “Even though the place changed,” Ms. Futterman said, “the spirit did not.” Almost every guest who had originally booked for Mexico rebooked for Montecito.
On March 14, as planned, Ms. Futterman and Mr. Olson were married at the Rosewood Miramar Beach before 57 guests. The ceremony was officiated by Jules Vogel, Ms. Futterman’s second cousin, who was ordained through the American Marriage Ministries for the occasion.
The ceremony included a breaking of the glass and a hora, honoring Ms. Futterman’s Jewish heritage, and the exchange of matching gold bands. The evening ended with dancing and an ice cream wedding cake.
“The people we chose to be there for us were chosen for a reason,” Ms. Futterman said. “And they chose to show up for us again and again.”
On This Day
When March 14, 2026
Where Rosewood Miramar Beach, Montecito, Calif.
Wedding Day Looks Ms. Futterman wore a strapless wedding dress by Lela Rose. Her bouquet was wrapped in the blue silk ribbon from their original wedding invitations, with her great-great-grandmother’s cameo fastened around it. Mr. Olson wore a custom linen suit from Suitsupply and a pocket square gifted by her, made from the same fabric as her wedding dress.
Music Reimagined Originally planned to have a live mariachi band to honor the local culture in Mexico, they opted for a string quartet instead for their California wedding. The Jordan Kahn Music Company heard about their situation and offered to provide the music for the entire evening as a gift.
No Designs Wasted “We had created custom items for the wedding in Mexico and wanted to reuse as much as possible,” she said. The seashell motifs, the palm tree design, the custom paper goods, and handmade stationery — all designed by her mother, Ellen Futterman, through her invitation company, Proper Notice.
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