I’d spent years observing the “trodden” path for couples: Save together, borrow together, and buy together.
However, it’s not a guaranteed road to success. I was concerned about the risks of messy breakups, crippling debt, and tense arguments over deposits.
So, in 2025, I decided to buy a house on my own, even though I was in a relationship.
The choice raised some eyebrows, especially since my boyfriend moved in a few months later and started paying half of all household expenses — including council tax, water, electricity, gas, and mortgage payments.
Many friends and family thought it was unfair that he was paying 50% of the expenses without benefiting from homeownership.
However, this arrangement works for us and is part of a bigger plan for our future.
By sharing costs, we’re accelerating our savings for an investment property
We’re in our 20s and live in the UK. Here, unmarried couples who contribute to a partner’s mortgage payments or home improvements “in good faith” (believing they’d eventually get a share in the property) are sometimes awarded legal compensation.
So, we also have a cohabitation agreement in place that states he understands he has no financial interest in the house, regardless of the bills he pays. That way, if we break up, he isn’t entitled to my property.
This agreement could leave my boyfriend vulnerable, but that’s where our “phase two” comes in.
We’re both currently saving to buy a second property in 2027. The plan is for me to pay 50% of the deposit and mortgage payments, but this one will be in his name only.
Our goal is eventually to live in one home and rent out the other.
Should we split in later years, it’s easy to divide up the properties: We each keep the one with our name on it. Together, though, we’ll have a source of passive income and a roof over our heads.
Financially, our arrangement also accelerates our capacity to save for a second down payment.
My starter house is a two-bedroom terrace, and we each pay £550 a month toward the mortgage. As individuals, we’re paying considerably less a month than we would if we were renting alone in this same neighborhood, where places typically start at £800 a month.
Plus, as I’m the sole person on this mortgage, my boyfriend’s borrowing potential remains untouched. When it comes to approaching lenders in 2027, this can make him more likely to be approved for a mortgage.
With this strategy, we can be stronger together but supported individually
For now, my boyfriend is supporting my property, and I’m contributing toward his future down payment.
Our goal is a peaceful life together, owning an investment property that generates passive income and an affordable home that facilitates a low-stress lifestyle. It’s a win-win.
We hope to achieve financial flexibility so that money will never be a barrier to enjoying our time together. Perhaps we’ll travel, reduce our work hours, or just settle down without some of the pressures that modern-day couples face.
The plan is mid-execution right now, but in the near future, we’ll hopefully both be protected against the “worst-case” scenario. Buying separately avoids the expensive, dragged-out sales of joint assets; if we split, he and I will both immediately walk away with something.
Honestly, even if we split before purchasing that second property, at least we’ll have both grown our savings.
From the outside, our living situation may look unconventional. For us, it’s deliberate with long-term benefits on the horizon.
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