The internet is laughing while defending a man who “embarrassed” his girlfriend’s Italian family by speaking Italian.
Published to Reddit‘s r/AmITheA**hole forum, a man under the anonymous username u/aitaITAM1990 shared his story to get the opinions of the “AITA” community. The viral post has over 22,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The original poster (OP) began his post by saying that he recently started dating his girlfriend and attended dinner with her and her family. Beforehand, she warned him that some of the men in her family are big into being “macho” and like to “test” the people that the women in their family bring home. They are also very proud of their Italian heritage.
During dinner, they made remarks about his height, beard and his shaved head. They also made jokes about his IT job, but they suddenly stopped when the OP told them how much he makes.
The Redditor wrote, “It was overall not a bad experience, but a not so pleasant one. Anyways, her older brother kept pushing things, giving me exceptional amounts of s**t for playing Lacrosse in HS (apparently its a sport for prissy rich kids and not manly like football or baseball). He ended his rant by saying ‘hey, we’re just a big Italian family, we’re loud and tell it how we see it! Hahaha!’ and all the family except my girlfriend laughed.
“So I, for the next minute, responded to everything they said in Italian. My girlfriend buried her head in shame, the grandfather laughed and everyone else kept looking at each other confused before telling me they didn’t speak Italian. I replied ‘then don’t use your Italian heritage as an excuse to behave poorly when you can’t even speak the language.’ They got mad, but the grandfather told them all I was right and to be quiet,” he continued.
The OP clarified that his girlfriend wasn’t ashamed of what he did, she was ashamed of how her family treated him. Eventually, she sided with him. However, the men in his girlfriend’s male family members thought he was a “smart a**” and “disrespected them and their masculinity in an unforgivable way.”
Newsweek reached out to u/aitaITAM1990 for comment.
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Redditors were quick to comment in defense of the OP.
“[Laughing out loud] [not the a**hole]. The grandad knows it! He probably half rolls his eyes every time they say they are Italian when he knows he’s the last speaker. You shut them down in the most epic/appropriate way possible! Your girlfriend should be proud flaunting that her boyfriend is more Italian than any of them,” u/bigbrainvirus wrote, receiving the top comment with over 25,000 upvotes.
U/splbm said, “[Laughing my a** off]- the pure savagery from what you said & did is so golden. You totally won the heart of your GF’s grandfather (I wish I had that kind of grandfather, but mine is an [a**hole]). You and your GF are lucky to have each other. [Not the a**hole]- Sending good vibes.”
“[Not the a**hole], They brought it upon themselves. They went out of their way to put you down and you defended yourself the best way you could. You have the grandfather’s respect for this and mine. You should not let others walk all over you or they will continue to do so in the future. They must be the ones to realize that they were at fault just as much if not more,” u/DoItForTacos commented.
U/darthnesss exclaimed, “[Not the a**hole] They tried to talk a big game and looked like fools. That’s on them. Good work!”
“[Not the a**hole] you destroyed a foundation pillar of their toxic masculinity. Which they were trying to do to you. Good on you,” u/Bonecup wrote.
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